How Do I Decide?

Facing an unplanned pregnancy is a difficult challenge.

Not only do you have your concerns, but everyone around you has theirs.

Everyone also has an opinion, and advice.

It can be very overwhelming.

Which voice do you listen to?

Remember that ultimately the decision on how to move forward is yours.

Some people will support you, some will criticize you. Be prepared for that.

But remember: it’s a decision you have to live with for the rest of your life.

Don’t be in a hurry.

Take time to research your options.

Part 1: Where do I stand?

Tips for Decision Making

Research the facts about your options.
Take time alone to think, and pray if you’re a person of faith.
Write down the pros and cons of each choice.
Take each choice and examine your gut feelings.
Identify where your gut is leading you before you take into consideration the opinions of those around you. Remember, you will ultimately live with this decision.

What about the future?

Place yourself in the future with this choice. How do you feel?
Think about or write down why this choice seems best.
Think about or write down the areas of pain and suffering that will result. Ask yourself if you can live with that.
If you are a person of faith, take this to prayer and ask “Lord, is it your will that I do this?” or Lord, is it your will that I not do this?” Examine the feeling you get after each question.
What/who do I need, to help me move forward with this decision?

Questions to ask yourself for each option

How will this affect me long term? How will it affect my child? How will it affect the people closest to me?
With what decision do I experience fear the most? What might help me calm my fears?
Are there any solutions to the obstacles I see? What are they?
Do I need more information on any particular topic? If so, where or to whom can I go?
What is holding me back from a particular choice? What is that feeling based on? Is my feeling coming from myself or other people’s opinions?
Can I live with myself if I make this choice?

You Have Three Options:

Abortion
Adoption
Keeping the Baby

We’re Here

Some women suffer from depression during their pregnancy
This can greatly affect a person’s ability to make good decisions.
If you are suffering from depression, don’t ignore it.
Please contact us.
We’re here to listen and assist you in finding the help you need.

In addition, here are some helpful tips from a Christian woman
who became depressed when she discovered her unplanned pregnancy.
If you are a woman of faith, you may find this helpful.

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Part 2: What are the people in my life saying?

More tips for decision making

Identify the people in your life that are telling you what they think is best for you.
Identify the people in your life that are non-judgemental and supportive.
Identify the people that know you well, that you consider wise, whose opinion you value and/or whose life you admire.

Where does the baby’s father stand?

Is he in or out of the picture?
Do I want him in my life or not?
If yes, is he supportive and challenging me to be the best version of myself or is he pushing me to do what he wants?
If I make the choice that pleases him, will I feel happy with myself or will this become a source of conflict in our relationship?
If I make a choice that differs from him, will he stand behind me or not?
Do I feel free in this relationship?
Does his opinion about the baby matter to me?
If I don’t want him in my life, where does that leave me? Where does that leave the baby?
Have I considered his rights as the father?
What are the responsibilities of the father?

The father of your child is legally responsible to assist in the support of the child, even if he has offered to pay for an abortion.

Need an understanding person
to talk this through with?

You don’t have to do this alone.

Contact us today to receive an Angel.